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A Bereaved Child at Boarding School

What does September evoke for you? Many ex-borders have spoken of a level of melancholy that comes over them at this time of year. Grief. Their body is reminding them of how they experienced pulling out their trunk and packing again to return to boarding school, leaving their family, pets, and all that is familiarContinue reading “A Bereaved Child at Boarding School”

A grown up child’s grief on Father’s Day.

On June 11th, 1976, whilst we were on holiday in Wales my dad died suddenly of a heart attack. He was 34. I was 11 months old. Whilst growing up, Father’s day was irrelevant to me. He was rarely spoken about and Father’s day was never acknowledged.  It is only now, in my 40s, thatContinue reading “A grown up child’s grief on Father’s Day.”

How to emerge out of Lockdown and find our Selves again…

On Thursday I went into Brighton and wandered through the North Lanes. I bought a coffee and sat outside at a café. Later I bought a falafel wrap from “I Love Falafel, an old favourite of mine. As I sat at the café watching people go past, I felt part of myself returning. In theContinue reading “How to emerge out of Lockdown and find our Selves again…”

Has Lockdown caused a rise in Eating Disorders?

The media is now full of stories of body transformation tales. Tiktok has been rife for months with young women sharing online what they are eating throughout the day and showing their reduced waists. Teenagers are mimicking the smoothie bowls they see these new found influences making and are receiving messages from them about whatContinue reading “Has Lockdown caused a rise in Eating Disorders?”

How is your nervous system coping with the news this week?

Watching the Harry and Meghan interview on Monday night, the emotion that stood out the most for me was fear. They both mentioned so many times that they felt that had no choice because their security was taken away and they felt unsafe. The fear had a sense of being historical as well as comingContinue reading “How is your nervous system coping with the news this week?”

Why offer a Womens Group?

Towards the end of Junior School, the divisions begin. Some girls hit puberty and as their minds and bodies adjust to the influx of hormones, other girls are left behind and may be scorned at for their “childish” behaviour. The “Popular” girls in secondary school tend to be those who act more “grown up” –Continue reading “Why offer a Womens Group?”

How can we support our Teenagers?

It is getting harder and harder. For all of us. And the teenagers are really struggling. I work with several teenagers and have noticed feelings of apathy and depression really taking grip now. “I feel flat.” “Numb.” “Nothing – I don’t know.” “Unmotivated.” “Hopeless.” “Bored.” “Isolated.” “Lethargic.” “Its like being in prison.” Fed up ofContinue reading “How can we support our Teenagers?”

Boarding School. A privilege or hidden form of Child Neglect?

Are you a Therapist working with adults who have been to Boarding School? Or someone interested in how a boarding school education may impact a child’s upbringing and subsequently their behaviour as an adult? Come and join me for this online workshop next Wednesday evening – 4th November. 6-8pm. https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boarding-school-a-privilege-or-a-hidden-form-of-child-neglect-tickets-122359302969

Exercise – Why do we really do it?

I passed a friend on the way back from the gym this morning at 7am.  She sent me a message saying, “I can’t believe you get up so early to go to Crossfit. “ I realise that to many it may seem like madness, some crazy fitness addiction, a punishing regime.  For many people, there isContinue reading “Exercise – Why do we really do it?”

September – A Month of Transition.

I noticed how the long-awaited relief of children returning to school was entwined with a feeling of loss and sadness this week. My mood dipped and I started to recognise this feeling as a familiar tone that sets in year after year in September. The sea suddenly becomes less inviting, I notice the evenings startContinue reading “September – A Month of Transition.”